DOS AND DON’TS OF A DIVORCE HIRE A LAWYER (Never go to a gunfight with a stick) DO: Get recommendations from friends, lawyer referral services. Do not read too much into one or two negative reviews.
Research attorney reviews on the Internet to get a feel on responsiveness, character, staff interactions, etc. You are still married until the divorce decree is entered and final. Let your children spend time with the extended family.
Don’t change your social status on Facebook from married to single because you are still married.
It would be beneficial to consult an attorney licensed in your state to see if a clause confirming and acknowledging that no extra-marital affairs contributed to the decision to separate could be inserted into a separation agreement and upheld in court. She received her Masters in Literature and Gender Studies from Texas State University, San Marcos; and received her Juris Doctor from Southern Methodists University, Dallas.My concern would be if your wife could later prove that you had an affair that she did not know about at the time she signed the agreement, and she could argue that the affair was your motivation for separation, which may be enough for adultery grounds. Brucks is a Staff Attorney in the Fort Worth, Texas office of Cordell & Cordell where she practices domestic relations exclusively. It is true that any romantic relationship outside your marriage is technically adultery.Whether or parties must be divorced on adultery grounds when the parties did not begin to see other people until after the separation is a different issue, however.Be honest about all the bad things about your life or people that you associate with. Don’t bring a box of documents, Tupperware box of documents, Ziploc baggy of documents with no sense of organization.
In other words, talk about the skeletons in your closet. (They teach us at seminars to avoid these types of clients; it’s a red flag people). HOW TO TREAT YOUR SPOUSE DURING THE CASE DO: Be civilized. Engage in counseling; individually and / or family. Don’t put any nasty messages in writing such as emails or text messages. Engage in family counseling or individual counseling where appropriate. Always assume you are being photographed or recorded. Don’t cancel health insurance, car insurance and the like. Let your children spend extra time with your spouse or ex-spouse. Put your animosity or anger that you feel towards your spouse or ex-spouse aside for the benefit of your children. (Being drunk, acting stupid, flipping the bird, etc.). Don’t post the horrible pictures of yourself that reflect badly on your character. The next issue I will address is what can happen if you and your wife no longer agree to proceed on no-fault grounds after you begin dating other people.